How to Understand and Support Your LGBT Teen

      

This is a very complex and possibly controversial topic. Hence, I would like to break it down into smaller chunks. It is easy to feel lost after your teenager opens up to you. This article is meant to show you how to support and become closer to your LGBT teen. After that, I will address some common questions that parents have. Ideally, you will want to be understanding and supportive, and want to have as much information as you can get. Let's begin.

To start with, you should not try to "convert" your LGBT teen. They came out to you because they trusted you and felt that it would be helpful. So, honour that trust; don't break it. Doing so will only serve to distance you from your teenager. Also, you must understand that there is no way you can change them. Being an LGBT teen is a part of who they are, or even a part of their genetic make-up.

Next, you need to understand why they came out to you. They probably came out to you because they need a shoulder to lean on, or they just felt tired of "sneaking around". Whatever the reason, you need to figure it out. If they came to you because they need help, offer them help. If they came to you for the latter reason, then be understanding and act like a mature adult.

Let them know it is OK to be who they are. Nothing hurts more than being a disappointment to your parents. If you don't let them know that it is OK, explicitly, than there is a very real chance that they will think they are a failure- even if they aren't. If you aren't OK with them, then don't say so. If you do, you risk causing undue psychological damage. Remember, there is nothing you can change. So, if you telling them that you aren't OK with their sexual identity isn't going to help anyone, and is going to serve no purpose, then why do it? In fact, it is going to hurt more than help.

Understand their sexual identity. While you may think you know all about their identity, you'd be surprised about how much you don't know. Did you know that gender can differ from sex? Gender has to do with your identity, while sex is the gender you were assigned at birth. Did you know that homosexuality occurs in nature? Homosexuality has been observed in over 450 animals, while homophobia has only been observed in humans. If you are having a difficult accepting your teenager's identity, understanding their identity is the first step to acceptance. Let me give you an analogy. Let's say you come home to see someone drilling into the side of your house. Flustered, you start yelling at them to stop. When they do, you give them an earful, not allowing them to give their side of the story. What you don't know is that they are drilling a wire into a box at the side of your house and upgrading your internet cable for free. When we have more information, we are naturally more able to be accepting.

Understand that their identity isn't hurting anyone, because it isn't. It's their right to decide how to live their life, and being gay or transgender or really having any other sexual identity is not going to kill anyone. I don't mean to be harsh, but the sooner you understand this, the easier you will find it to be accepting.

Don't treat them any different. Treating them different would mean that you see them differently, which shouldn't be the case. All they did was let you know something that you hadn't previously known about them. They haven't changed. If you treat you LGBT teenager differently, it might send a message that your relationship has been negatively impacted, and they won't like that.

Have a mature conversation. Some people find it easy to get things straightened out by having a conversation after your teenager comes out, just to ask any questions. Generally, questions you might want to ask are, "When did you find out?" and, "Do you have a partner?". You should respect their answers, as well as their right to privacy. If there are questions they don't want to answer, don't push.

Allow them to participate in the LGBT community. Understand that it will be healthy for them to associate with people who they can relate to. Being a part of a community of like-minded people who share an interest in hobbies or past times can be helpful for a lot of people. Sexuality is no different. Having a minority sexual identity can be confusing, and it is easy to feel alone and unsupported. Being an active member of the LGBT community can solve both of these issues. Having people to share your experiences and worries, and receive unbiased feedback in return, can be helpful on so many levels.

Don't talk about their sexual identity behind their back. No matter how liberal you think your friends are, blabbing to them about you teenager's sexual identity is betraying their trust. Likewise, If you are freaked out or think negatively about your teenager's identity, and are going to your friends with the primary goal of venting, you need to either find a different outlet, or learn to be more accepting. It is extremely hurtful to find that your parent or parents have broken your trust. Even if you think your teenager will never find out, what if they did? Is it really worth risking your relationship because you need someone to vent to? Remember, teenagers are very resourceful and observant, just like adults. They aren't kids anymore.

Don't get worried. Some people fear that being a part of the LGBT community is a slippery slope to dangerous behaviour. This couldn't be farther from the truth. LGBT people have the same amount of sexual partners as heterosexual men and women. Drug use is not more prevalent in LGBT teens than in heterosexual teens. Where this misconception came from, I'm not completely certain. I believe, however, that this is another myth cooked up by people who are biased against the LGBT community.

Questions

Why did they complicate our relationship by telling me?

Most likely, they didn't want to complicate your relationship. Instead, they were most likely seeking to improve your relationship with them by coming out. That, and they wanted your support. Actually, in a lot of cases, they NEED your support. By giving them your support, you will better your relationship and make their life easier.

Why did they keep this from me for so long?

Practically the polar opposite of the previous question, this too is quite common. The reason they didn't want to tell you their sexual identity is because- yes, you guessed it- they didn't want to complicate your relationship. Often, I hear LGBT teens tell me it is just easier to keep their sexual identity private. They are probably afraid of parental rejection and wish to simply keep that part of their life to themselves. They weren't trying to be dishonest, they were just scared.

Did I do something wrong?

In short, no. Being LGBT isn't a fault. The only reason some people view it as such is because of religion and the fact LGBT people lie in the minority. Both of these can be ignored (look at the next section for an explanation). How can you have done something wrong if nothing bad happened?

My religion condemns being LGBT. Does this mean I will have to change their sexual identity?

Not at all. Ultimately, this comes down to you. Your teenager can make a lot of decisions themselves, and religion is one of them. You no longer have the right to enforce your religion onto them. That being said, how you treat your LGBT teenager IS your decision. Many people are choosing to ignore the sections in their set of religious doctrine that condemn homosexuality because they believe it was written in a time with very different customs and views. Basically, the sections in the bible or any other religious text that oppose homosexuality simply aren't relevant in today's society. With this in mind, do you really want to treat you teenager poorly and make things difficult between you, when you can choose to support them, help them, and keep a great, sustainable relationship?

I hope this article will help you and your teen grow closer after they come out. The real key to making things work is understanding and acceptance. If you accept them for who they are, your relationship will be an awarding one.

Sexual Fetishes - How to Talk to One's Partner

 

Sexual fetishes - the word associations of "strange," "weird" and "freak" are unfortunately often made with this term. But there's no need for fetishes to come with a negative connotation. While some fetishes are problematic (such as uncontrolled exhibitionism or pedophilia), many are completely harmless, though they may be difficult for those without such a fetish to understand. For a man's own personal sexual health (and therefore penis health), as well as for the good of his relationships, it's important not to suppress or feel ashamed about his fetishes. Of course, it's not always the easiest of subjects to broach with a partner who may not understand. The following tips might help.

1) Get informed.

Before a man can have a calm and safe conversation about his sexual fetish(es), he should know as much as possible about it. This is a bit tricky, considering that research into the nature of fetishes has not unveiled a conclusion as to their origins. Different things may cause fetishes to emerge in different people. But it can be good to know how common a man's particular fetish is (to the extent possible), how long ago the fetish was first reported on or discussed in literature, etc. Read articles in psychological and sexual health publications about sexual fetishes for a broader understanding as well.

The first thing to know about a fetish is the definition thereof. The Kinsey Institute defines it thus: "a strong sexual preoccupation with an object, material, or body part." This doesn't necessarily mean that a person needs the object, material or body part to become aroused or reach orgasm, but that the thing in question may be needed for maximum enjoyment of sexual activity. Some with strong fetishes may need the thing in order to perform or finish.

2) Get comfortable.

Shame, guilt and discomfort will not lend themselves to a healthy conversation. A man may feel better after becoming more informed; if not, he should seek out help from a sex therapist to get more comfortable with his special desire.

3) Don't expect an immediate go-ahead.

Be comfortable, but don't get defensive. Understand that fetishes are hard for people without them to understand, and don't expect partners to hop on board right away with playing out one's fantasies. This may be a challenge for the other partner, so go slow and keep the doors of communication open.

4) Personalize the desire.

Sometimes the inclusion of a fetish into sexual activity can cause the other partner to feel that it no longer matters that he or she is the one with whom the fetishizing partner is playing out the desire with. It can be helpful for men to explain to their partners that, just as they both like certain positions generally but the act is still special between them when in those positions, so it is with the fetish. This is a special thing for two partners to share together.

5) Start slow.

If the partner is on board, then great! But don't pull out all the stops right off the bat. If a man is into BDSM, for example, busting out a ball gag and whip on the first night of experimentation might be alarming. A couple should discuss how to ease into it, and a partner should never perform an act involving the other without having discussed it first. Following the BDSM example, a couple may agree to start with some soft hand cuffs and maybe a blindfold and feather teaser - nothing too rough.

6) Communicate one's needs without coercing.

For those who need their fetishes fulfilled in order to have a satisfying sex life, but whose partners are not comfortable taking part, it's important to be honest but not to coerce. This is a fine line to tread - stating one's needs can easily be interpreted as a threat to leave the relationship or an attempt to cause guilt or a sense of inadequacy in the other. Partners need to speak lovingly with one another on this issue. It may turn out that the relationship will not work because of this hurdle, and that needs to be explored openly and without judgment. Be honest, but tread softly.

The Truth About Fetishes

 When you look past the world of "classic sex" there is a whole other world of fetishes. Fetishes are defined as an obsession with a specific act or feeling that generates arousal. These come in many forms. Some are basic like fetishes about feet or hands, while others involve intense role-playing. These are the most secretive types of fetishes. They involve bondage, domination and/or nurturing by one person to the person who has the fetish.

Bondage is one of the most active types of fetishes. Many couples enjoy light bondage in their home during sex. This involves tying one or both hands and/or feet to a bed post or blind folding a person. The idea behind bondage is that one person is in partial or total control of the other. There is a deep amount of arousal with having all the control or having lack of control. Some people are able to play both the submissive and dominate roles while others only experience arousal with one role or the other. There are other people who enjoy being fully tied-up, gagged and possibly even tortured. While the fetish world is most often portrayed as men being dominated by female mistresses, there are also women who enjoy this particular fetish.

Domination fetishes involve two-roles and may incorporate other fetishes. Acts of bondage are considered domination; however role-playing may be done with teacher/student, parent/child or boss/employee scenarios. Usually during these sessions the "servant" will perform whatever "duties" are instructed to them. There is usually an "incentive" included such as spanking, gagging or other forms of light torture. Couple may perform fetish scenarios at home, but most reach out to fetish dungeons to have their arousal needs satisfied. Fetish domains can be found online and their location is disclosed to the client when an appointment is confirmed. There is no sex involved when a person chooses to visit one of these facilities; the acts are strictly for arousal purposes. Some also specialize in certain types of mistresses - Asian, plus size, etc - and offer unique styles of torture - electrical current, mummification, etc.

Nurturing fetishes are drastically different from bondage and domination fetishes. Usually these are centralized around the through or idea of reconnecting with an estranged parent or lover. Some of these involve one person as a "horse" or other animal while the partner. Another common nurturing fetish involves one person acting as a parent to another person who wears diapers, simulates breast-feeding and is taken care of.

Enjoying a type of fetish does not make a person "weird" or some sort of "freak". If anything, it identifies those individuals that are comfortable enough with their sexuality and what turns them on to embrace a different kind of sexual stimulation.

What Is A Fetish And Do You Have One?

 

Some people cannot put a finger on what their fetish is. Some know them but they think they are way too abnormal. What would you say a fetish is? It is word which means false charm, power or object. It is something you are obsessed with. It can be a body part or an object. Your sexual gratification is fixated on a particular thing. It becomes a fetish when you cannot sexually get satisfied unless you fantasize about it. It is so bad that even when you masturbate you must have it in mind and still when you are with a partner sexually it has to be present or somewhere in your imagination. For instance you might find brunettes attractive which is fine but if you cannot get sexually aroused without their presence, then you certainly have a serious fetish for brunettes.

A fetish transfers power from an original object or charm to a substitute. A person who has fetishes is known as fetishist whose operation is outside the circle of what is practically considered to be normal. The variety of fetishes depend on the object where the fetish is placed upon. The known inanimate fetishes are found in three varieties. The first one is a media fetish where the fixation is all about materials such as rubber, silk, latex and leather among others. The second variety is called a form fetish where the obsession is about the shape of the object. A good example of form fetishes are stilettos, knee-high boots and certain lingerie. When the object of obsession involves body parts, the type of fetish is categorized under animate fetishes. They can be breasts, hair, feet butts and any other body part.

People have the capacity of turning anything in to a fetish. There are mild and extreme fetishes. You can be able to assess the degree of your obsessive fixation according to whether it affects your relationships and your daily life. If it interferes with your activities you should seek professional help from a psychologist. Try as much as possible to tame your fetish because when if it goes wild it becomes a mental disorder. A fetish might be triggered by something. We were not born with these obsessions. We acquire them later in life as we develop. A guy admitted that he developed a fetish for tongue rings after being orally pleasured by a woman who had one. The cold abject rubbed against his manhood while her hot mouth was engulfing him. Such a guy is likely not to get sexual gratification by romancing an ordinary girl. He needs one with a tongue ring. Experiences make us develop a fetish.

It is amazing to learn that fetishes are our deep down turn on. We might never talk about them but in your gut you know it. Some men marry beautiful and humble wives while what turns them on is a "bad girl". A girl with a crazy hairstyle and who can perform any act on them sexually. These idols are in movies and men close their eyes and fantasize about them. If you can watch a certain movie from Monday to Monday every day like there is no tomorrow, you probably have a fetish for that bad girl in the movie. A husband confessed that in order to orgasm, he had to fantasize that he was making love to this "bad girl" in his favorite movie.

French Kiss - Learning How to French Kiss

 Kissing is one of the best ways to show affection to a loved one. It is great way to start and end the day being kissed passionately. This is also the key in maintaining an intimate relationship. This is why learning how to French kiss is something very important to people who have not experienced it yet.

The French Kiss

There are different kinds of kisses that people will share. There is the kiss on the cheek that is quite common in most communities. People also do the Eskimo kisses. The air kiss is also one way of showing you care to friends.

Learning how to French kiss is a more intimate gesture. This is something that you can only share with your love one. This is not to be taken lightly. The French kiss happens the moment the mouth of two persons touch, involving some tongue action. The tongue moves in and out of the mouth as the partners share the intimate moment.

It is very important learning how to French kiss well because it will tell a lot about the sexual compatibility of the partners. It can also make or break a relationship. It is difficult to get kissed again when the French kiss is done very badly. Thus, learning how to French kiss will help a lot.

Learning How to French Kiss

Keep in mind that learning how to French kiss will not come easily if you merely think of how the tongue moves. They say that it is even difficult to practice on this one. However you can keep in mind a few tips that will help you prepare for your real French kiss.

1. Practice Alone

Some people try practicing alone when learning how to French kiss. This will not equip you with the necessary experience. Some even find this embarrassing. However, it can be helpful in preparing yourself for that moment.

2. Ask Your Partner

It is best to ask your partner or love one. Tell him or her that you have not really done this yet. This can be one way for the two of you to explore things together or your partner can lead you throughout. By doing this, you can test the waters in learning how to French kiss without the worries that your partner might think of you as a complete failure.

3. The Element of Love

Keep in mind that the French kiss is a passionate act. You cannot expect learning how to French kiss successfully unless you feel love and affection to the partner. Sharing a kiss with tongue action requires giving yourself up to a certain extent. Your partner will be able to tell on how much you can give through the kiss. Thus, do not expect to learn how to French kiss easily if you or your partner do not feel any love chemistry.

4. Read Each Other

Learning how to French kiss also involves some rhythm and synchrony. You and your partner have to read each other as you kiss. This means reading the body language to know what to do. For example, you cannot constantly do the tongue action. You have to feel if your partner wants to kiss your lips, then you stick with that. Once he or she moves closer then you can read this as a desire to share a French kiss.

5. Relax and Enjoy

Finally, you have to relax and enjoy this intimate moment. You might be scared on how you will do on your French kiss. However, you cannot keep thinking of such things or else you might hold back. You have to be comfortable to be able to give a good kiss. Just go with the flow of your feelings and desire.

Learning how to French kiss is an art. It is a good thing to learn as you share this passionate moment with your love one. Nothing compares to having that perfect French kiss.

The Top Five Threesome Rules To Help You Enjoy The Experience

 Talk of threesome and all the men around you go crazy with fantasy. Many men would pay handsomely for an adventure of having sex with two girls at the same time. There is readily available information about how to organize for threesome but there is limited information about what a guy should do when the occasion arises.

Unlike normal sex activity, a threesome calls for high degree of sensitivity and also reasonable imagination. For a threesome that is to be reckoned, you have to go for the kill with some idea of what you should do. When you understand these threesome rules you will get the best out of your threesome experience which might be with two women one of whom is your lover.

To enjoy such a setting, it is advisable to first devise threesome rules and limits which should indicate each individual's comfort levels which should be understood and respected. Your relationship with your woman might be affected by this experience so you ought to clearly get what she is comfortable with you doing to the other woman and what she won't entertain. For instance she might be uncomfortable with you giving oral sex or penetrative sex to another woman. Do not go beyond the limits. Keep in mind that any of the two women might get drastically jealous so try as much as possible not to shut either of them out but always give your woman special attention. You might end up feeling bad if the attention is not centered on you. Fulfill the intent of the game by sharing sexual pleasure between the three of you.

One of the threesome rules dictate that alcohol should not be consumed either before or during threesome. Some people tend to drink in order to be brave but it will only turn out to be bad sex. If you really need to loosen up you should not exceed one or two cocktails. This encourages peak sexual performance during threesome.

Another rule for threesome dictates that the participants should be as giving as they can afford and less expectant - You as the guy you might expect that the two women will give you full attention but the truth is that they are in it because they want an equal share of sexual pleasure. Threesome does not work well with emotions and feelings so keep them aside and be more generous with your mouth as well as your hands.

Among the threesome rules is that the participants should ensure that their hands are busy. Always find something to do. Caress their breasts, womanhood, kiss their necks and back and orally pleasure one woman if she is in an inviting position. This will certainly redirect attention towards you sooner than you expected. While performing threesome, be extra careful with penetration since it automatically creates a strong bond between you and one woman. Only penetrate either of the women when you are sure that they are ready and comfortable with it to avoid a scenario where one woman feels misplaced. Stay safe during the operation and use protection.

Use a different condom with each woman while having penetrative sex. Use one of your hands with one specific woman and the other on the second one. This is because any genital fluid like vaginal discharge and sperm can lead to sexually transmitted diseases.

Sex Secrets - Top 7 Sexual Fantasies Women Think About And Wish Their Men Would Make A Reality

 Women think about sex all the time and because sex is very mental for women - they tend to have much more wild and naughty sexual fantasies than men do. Yes, really, they do.

It's just a sad fact that most men don't realise this and therefore don't ever truly satisfy their woman.

If you want to satisfy your woman, try making some of the naughty thoughts that are going on inside her head a reality for her. when you do, you'll have the best sex of your life and she'll have the strongest orgasms of her life...

Here is what many women are fantasizing about...

Top 7 Sexual Fantasies Women Think About And Wish Their Men Would Make A Reality

1. Dirty Talk

Remember how we just said that for women - sex is very mental?

Well - guess what the best way to stimulate a woman's mind in the bedroom is? You got it - dirty talk.

Start talking dirty to your woman every time you have sex. She'll love it and it'll be easier to make her climax when you use your voice.

2. Outstanding Oral Sex

Most men give women oral sex as if it was a chore and women can sense this. When a woman senses that a man is not really enjoying giving her oral sex, it lowers the pleasure for her and she probably won't have an orgasm.

Women absolutely crave a man who gives them oral sex with passion and explores every part of their vagina (not just their clitoris).

3. Being Out Of Control

Many women fantasize about having sex with a big, strong man. Some women want to be held down, others tied up. Some even want to experience the rape fantasy.

Being out of control is the ultimate way for a woman to be totally submissive and a man to be totally dominant.

This can be a hugely powerful fantasy - just be careful with it.

4. Naughty School Girl

The naughty school girl fantasy involves your woman pretending to be young and innocent. When you try this, you should take the role of the teacher who calls the school girl into his office and "punishes" her for being a bad girl.

This one is really "wrong", but it feels so right for most women.

5. Threesome

Many women won't admit it, but they'd secretly love to have sex with their man and another man or woman. Be careful how you go about making this happen, but if you decide to do it - it could be one of the most powerful sexual experiences of your life.

Two men and one woman is the more powerful fantasy for most women as it allows them to totally let go and be ravaged by two strong, masculine guys.

Women have more naughty minds than most men could ever imagine.

6. Sex Party

Sex parties do exist. Do a little research online and you can read all about them.

Women like the idea of sex parties because there is something very dirty and naughty about a room full of people there for one reason and one reason only - SEX.

7. No Money To Pay

Another powerful fantasy for a woman is where she has to pay for a service using her body because she has "forgotten her money".

A classic example is where she takes her car in for a service and then realises she has run out of money. In order to get her car back - she pays the mechanic in "another way".

Have fun with these fantasies and try making some of them a REALITY for your woman. She'll be very grateful when you do.

Just keep in mind that sexual fantasies are just another way to help your woman to have what she really wants needs and craves in the bedroom - orgasms. Lots and lots of orgasms.

Becoming a Lesbian Seductress

                             

                                    

When we think of lesbians the word "erotic " and "fantasy" comes to mind in most heterosexuals; however the irony is that we really are no different than them in so many ways. When we hear the word lesbian we may think relationship, person, woman, love, drama or heart-aches. We are very busy identifying often what our sexuality means and how it relates to the world that our sensual side often gets forgotten and unloved.

We become very focused on pleasing all others, parents, friends, work, children and of course our partners that our inner sex goddess gets put aside. Being sexually confident holds enormous power in maintaining a healthy Lesbian relationship and it is the key to attraction if you are a single Lesbian!

One of the most attractive aspects of an individual is their confidence, no matter what their orientation. A woman who feels attractive, comfortable in her body and sexual is automatically perceived as sexy!!! The most wonderful thing about being confident and sexy is that you do not have to look like a super model or one of the chicks from the L Word.

When you are sexually confident you have the magic of seduction, you are able to take responsibility for what pleases you. You let go of all walls and barriers that may be holding you back and are able to relax and enjoy sex. Being a Lesbian Seductress means knowing what you want and how to get it, you can initiate sex and have no worries about letting your woman know your inner most wants and desires.

A Lesbian Seductress (aka You!) is powerful, assertive in her character, knowing what she wants and what she needs, and how to ask for it. A Seductress is connected to her sexual persona and is intelligent enough to adapt and change quickly and maintain her strength. A diva warrior princess, she will fight another day for her sexual power and is always on the journey of self-discovery!

Being a sexual being is a piece of the whole of you and can be the one that breaks you or puts you down, so let us work on empowering her! Here are some tips:

1. Masturbate! Explore your body all over and know what makes you feel good!
2. Dress up! I have my hooker boots that I wear with my black panties and bra that only my girl knows what I look like in them and she loves ripping them off!
3. Some of us girly Lesbians need to go and get some sexy underwear... as for my butch girls and studs you know we love seeing you in your boxers or hell nothing at all under those jeans!
4. Have positive Sexual messages running in your head. Some of us were taught as children to associate shame with sex. Some may also have been survivors of sexual or any other kind of abuse and find being positive sexually can be very hard. I recommended seeking professional help from a mental health profession to work on those issues.
5. If your girl is not telling you how beautiful and wondrous you are, give her a kick in the butt! Tell her how amazing it feels when she notices and shares that with you. My stomach would do flips when my ex-lady would tell me "I am the most beautiful Woman in the world" and I really felt she meant it!
6. Believe in yourself and the limitless things you can do! You are an amazing creature; let me feel your energy ladies!
7. Write your thoughts or keep a journal, connecting with your inner self is soothing and healing.
8. My clients always laugh at me when I make them do this and I have told them for years that I have practiced this: look in the mirror and say "I love you, you are worth everything!" and then give yourself a BIG smile. Do it!
9. Become a nudist! This will help you reduce your anxieties of being naked. I grew up on nudist beaches so running around naked has never been a worry, in fact I am pretty sure my whole neighborhood knows about my naked ways! I do not give a s-t!
10. Read erotic lesbian stories... my girl Brook got me hooked on this stuff! Even better, write your own erotic adventure with you in it!
11. Go get her first, try to initiate sex starting tonight!
12. Read up on your sex manual, I have a bunch in the lesbian literature page of my blog.
13. Work out! Getting exercise increases our self-esteem and makes us feel good.
14. Smile. Smile. Smile. We want to see your beautiful face!
15. Be a romantic, get some candles, play music that makes you want to dance or take your clothes off... get into the mood!

Most importantly the key is in loving who you are and having a new belief that you deserve to be pleased and feel pleasure. Do not question who you are, acknowledge that you are a sexual person with fantasies, needs, secrets, wants, fetishes and desires. Explore your attitude about sex and yourself, and challenge those negative thoughts.

You are a powerful sexual woman, filled with passion and delight... say it loud... say it proud sister!

Tips for Having Incredible Sex With Someone You Just Met

 Let's assume three scenarios for incredible sex with someone you just met. These different situations all call for different sexual approaches. Whether you are the guy or the girl in this scenario will also have a bearing on what you need to do to make the sex intense and mind blowing.

1. Meeting for Sex For the First Time via Online Dating

You have probably already found out something about your new sex partner after communicating for sometime on the Internet. You will already be aware - if you met the woman or man on an adult-style dating website - of the sexual preferences and habits of your new partner.

Let the wave of anticipation build up the desire in your mind. You already know that this girl or guy loves oral, anal and/or a whole bunch of other stuff that you also are into in a big way. As the time gets closer before you meet for sex, think of all the things you fantasized about while chatting online, or sending sexy stories to each other via email.

A special tip for the girls: if you have met your man (or, indeed, woman!) via online dating and have promised him some mind blowing moves and positions, throw a few special sexy treats into the mix that you have kept up your sleeve to surprise him. It will make his experience more intense, with a harder erection and toe-curling orgasm. Naturally, your experience will be equally special if the guy is turned on to the max. If it's a girl you are meeting instead of a guy, then all your naughty lesbian sex fantasies will come to the fore, making this an evening you will never forget.

2. One Night Stand After Meeting in a Bar or Club

If you have met a girl or guy in a nightclub or elsewhere out on the town, try and keep as sober as you can. If things heat up and you eventually can't keep your hands off each other and the night evolves into a full-on love making party, being drunk is a bad idea. If you want an incredible sex experience with someone you just met that night, you are going to want all of your senses on alert. You'll also be able to remember the love making session better in the morning.

A special tip for the guys: always keep a condom in your wallet. You would hate for a hot girl to agree to have sex with you after just meeting, only for her to change her mind because you don't have a rubber. To jazz it up and make the sex even hotter, keep a small penis ring (made of metal or rubber) handy to give her a nice little stimulating surprise.

3. A Random Meeting in a Park or Open-Air Venue

If you happen to be a dogging fan, then the chances are you will have plenty of opportunities for having sex after just meeting people. If you are looking to meet women and men for sexual encounters in the great outdoors (or even in the back of your car), be aware that you must make sure nobody can see you. The thrill of such experiences drives many ladies and guys wild.

SPECIAL TIP FOR ALL: Whatever your situation, if you get the chance to have sex with a stranger (the idea alone is enough to work some women and guys into a frenzy), remember to practice safe sex at all times.

How to Make Love With Your Lesbian Partner (Hand Job, Blow Job And Sex Toys)

                                       

How to make love with your lesbian partner? The main tools are your hands, mouth, tongue and other necessities.

How to give her an unforgettable hand job? A perfect hand job must conclude stimulations to many areas such as her ears, neck, breasts, thighs, the back of her knees and the last one, her naughty parts.

First hug her from the back and whisper between her ears - just whisper anything you want and there's no specific rules about what you are supposed to say; some dirty and seductive things are enough.

A long, wet and deep kiss is a must. The tongue is the most flexible part of your body, so just try to make full use of it. When you are kissing your partner, put one of your hand on the back of her head; this makes woman feel safe. Use another hand to touch her neck and move your hand down towards.

Generally speaking, now she will start to breathe more deeply and aroused by your kiss and touch. Start exploring her body; the order is her collarbone, her breasts (You know what to do here, right?), her belly button, her thighs and then back to the naughty part.

It's time to stimulate her secret part. Take a look at her mystery garden and tell her how beautiful she is as well as that part. Put some lubricant on your hand and warm it up a little bit before you put it there. Now stimulate her inner and outer labia and clitoris with your finger - if she is watching, use your middle finger because it's more pornographic and easier to turn her on.

Blow job can't be missed in your sex. As a woman you should understand more about what she likes than a man, but it's better to ask her opinion before you do it.

Most women still love the feeling of penetration; you can either use your fingers or sex toys such as dildos or rabbit vibrators. The suggestion is fingers first then vibrators. Before penetration, make the vibrator wet enough with no matter your saliva or lubricant. Some dildos can be used by both you and your partner at one time; surely that makes lesbian sex more enjoyable and relaxing.

Three Reasons Why Online Dating Is the Best Way to Meet Shemales

 If you are interested in dating a shemale there is no better place to meet than online. Online personals sites give people many more options than traditional dating methods. When it comes to the transgender community it is a small place that is typically kept very quiet. Since most shemales are not revealing as to whom they really are, then that leaves online personals as one of the best places that offer them a safe to meet their admirers. There are three reasons why you should meet online are:

1. Safety
2. Criteria
3. Convenience

When it comes to safety the transgender community has a long history of being discriminated against. Not only have they been discriminated against but there have been many hate crimes that have cost people their lives for just being transgender. This is especially true of smaller towns that are further from the big cities. For some transgender people the safety issue is a big one because there are people who will use violence against them for no reason at all. This makes it difficult to try to meet others in the typical bar setting that most people are accustomed to.

Online personals sites are community specific and that gives everyone the safety of knowing what everyone it there for. In most cases these site require a credit card to allow contact and communicate with other members. This is a major plus on the safety end because if someone is willing to register their credit card information and home address then chances are they are truly there for meeting people. This helps eliminate members who might have less than perfect intentions.

Search criteria are obviously very important to most of us when searching for a partner. What you might not know is that the term shemale only referrers only to a male to female transgender person. In the transgender community there are many variations of transgender people. There are also female to male transsexuals, cross dressers and hermaphrodite that have hints of both sexes. This is something you would never know unless someone told you their gender history.

Finally there is the convenience of sitting home and taking your time to search for the person you are looking for. Dating used to be a hit or miss type of search where strangers really did not know much about each other. It used to be you would meet someone and then slowly learn more about them as time went on. The convenience of today's dating sites saves you time by being able to search for the type of partners you are looking for from the comfort of your own home